Dating a looser

"Fast talkers get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they don't pay attention to their audience," says Di Resta. "The way they deliberate every word before it comes out of their mouth is indicative of how they approach life: They look before they leap." So although you shouldn't expect a lot of surprises, at least you'll know he means what he says.

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"A man's actions — especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he's not going out of his way to try to impress you (or doesn't realize you're watching) — can speak volumes about his character and personality traits," says Rita Benasutti, Ph D, a psychotherapist who specializes in couple's issues.

To help you decode a guy you've just started seeing, Cosmo called on a team of experts to tell you how to assess his actions and tap into his boyfriend potential, pronto.

While a forceful personality might take him far in the workplace, it could be difficult to deal with this argumentative guy in a relationship.

If he's able to exude Zenlike calm when stuck in gridlock, "you're with someone who makes spontaneity a priority and could easily get bored with the status quo." Neat Freak or Messy Man A guy who puts his dirty socks in the hamper is one thing; a guy who color-codes them in his drawer is something else. This can be a good thing, because he won't hold a grudge against you or lose his cool.

On the other hand, a man who lavishes you with affection and spends hours hunting for your hot spots unsure about his feelings for you or your feelings for him.

"PDAs are statements of togetherness," says Nakamoto.

But it also might be hard to get into a serious conversation with him, which can be frustrating as hell.

"The more you try to discuss something important, the more evasive he will become," says Muskat.

An IM addict He might be a little old-fashioned and likes to do things by the book.

But, according to Bryson, "He's not afraid of intimacy." The Clothes You Wear That Turn Him On If your fave T-shirt and jeans or a cute little sundress do more for him than your slinky black number, places a high priority on prestige.

"Hard-core smokers he could be a hard nut to crack.

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